Step By Step

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

2. Stop making excuses for a man and his  behavior.

3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a  man's character, leave him alone.

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you  from heartache.

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a  relationship that's not meant to be.

6. Don't force an attraction. – yeah, its a no-no!

7. Slower is better.

8. Never live your life for a man before you find  what makes you truly happy.

9. If a relationship ends because the man  was not treating you as you deserve then heck ..no.. you  can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a  friend.  –

10. Have faith in God regarding your  relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.

11. Don't settle.

12. If you feel like he is stringing you along,  then he probably is. —check no.4

13. If he keeps changing his mind about the  relationship–take that as a BIG sign that he    is  unstable. Do you really want to be with a man  like that?

14. Don't stay because you think "it will get  better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.

16. The only person you can control in a  relationship is you.

17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps  you; HE DOESNT WANT YOU! —-ouch!!

18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children  by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry  them when he got them pregnant, why would he  treat you any differently?

19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs  before finding the prince.

20. Always put yourself and your happiness  first!

21. Always have your own set of friends  separate from his.

22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats  you. If something bothers you, speak up.

23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.

24. Be honest and upfront.

25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung  along.

26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role".  Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).

27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will  treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in  his family (not just mom).

28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them…flee.

29. You cannot change a man's behaviors.  Change comes from within. —oh yezzz!

30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is  not willing to follow himself — double-standard.

31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more  important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job.

32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is  a man, nothing more nothing less.

33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he  can't have you!

34. Don't compete with other woman, but be  aware that men are attracted to what they see.

35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is.  Confront him right away and if you feel he's  lying, let him go.

36. Actions speak louder than words.

37. Never let a man define who you are. — but of course!!

38. Never rely on a man for compliments,  look to yourself for that.

39. Never borrow someone else's man.

40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

41. Just because he says he loves you,  doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't  mean that you are meant to be with him.

42. To use painful hard-won wisdom — 'get it  right' the next time.

43. Know that you deserve to be the number  one person in the life of the #1person in your life.

44. Love is a verb … its an ACTION word!

45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of  trying to make someone unavailable-available,
someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-  loving.  dont wish a man will change for you

46. A man will only treat you the way you  ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.  — but most of them aredaw!

48. You should not be the one doing all the  bending…compromise is a two way street.

49. If you don't love yourself…you can't love  anyone else. — the number one rule!

50. You cannot mend someone else's broken  heart.

51. You need time to heal between  relationships…there is nothing cute about
baggage…deal with your issues before  pursuing a new relationship.

52. You should never look for someone to  COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of  two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complementary… not supplementary.

53. Dating is fun…even if he doesn't turn out  to be Mr. Right.

54. NEVER give more in a relationship than  you are getting out of it.

55. Never become your man's "therapist".

56. When actions and words conflict, believe  the actions. Respond to the actions.  check #36

57. A real healthy relationship requires two  people. One person can end it – but it takes
two to make it work.

58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving  type"…when a man loves you there is nothing in this world  (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.

59. Make him miss you sometimes…when a  man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him he  takes it for granted.

60. Give him his space…let him go out with  his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with  you, You cant force a man to hang out with  you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be  with him you shouldn't.

62. Never let a man know everything. He will  use it against you later.

63. Never move into his mother's house. —oh, oh!

64. Provide financially for yourself and don't  depend on anyone. -  naman!

65. Never co-sign for a man.

66. Never believe you have the perfect guy  and he is so innocent.

67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.

68. Never let a man mess up your credit.

69. When it's time to let go; let go.

70. Good men should be treated like good  men.

71. Don't play games.

72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't  give you everything that you need.

73. Keep him in your radar but get to know  others.

74. Compatibility in terms of educational  attainment, values, beliefs, personal and
career goals, and socioeconomic status, are  important.